Self Image... Does It or Doesn't Change?

SELF IMAGE QUESTIONS

1. Do you believe your mind is your own?

2. Are you capable of controlling your own feelings?

3. Are you motivated from within rather than from without?

4. Are you free from the need of approval?

5. Do you set up your own rules of conduct?

6. Are you free from the desire for justice and fairness?

7. Can you accept yourself and avoid complaining?

Self Image development Cycle

Parents - a Set of Values

Environment Attitudes

Experience Needs
Results - Action - Dominant Needs

Parental conditioning, environmental conditioning, and your experiences create and shape your self-image and your set of values. Poor self-image and value system means how you feel about your family, your social environment, yourself, and everything in your life.

Your set of values determines your attitudes. Some people say you only need to correct your attitude in order to change. What happens when you wake up feeling excited and enthusiastic, looking forward to the day and on the way to work someone on the freeway cuts you off. You issue forth with a few choice words or selected hand gestures and what happens to your positive attitude? Gone. Or significantly lessened. You need to change the self-image in order to affect your attitude the entire time. Your self-image- must be changed for permanent attitudinal change.

Your Attitude determines your needs. Do you need a Cadillac or a VW? Are you a winner at tennis or golf, or a poor player? Do you have arguments or pleasant conversations with your spouse? Do you need $30,000, $50,000, $75,000, or more a year to survive?

From your needs come your dominant needs. These are your needs that must have immediate action taken. Your dominant needs vary from day to day. One day your dominant needs may be having a roof over your head and food to eat. If your car breaks down, having it fixed becomes a dominant need.

Every time you have a dominant need you have to take action.

Every time you take Action you have a Result.

And every time you have a Result, you have an Experience, which goes right back to the self-image.

It is a cycle. Most people think they have many different experiences, when they actually have the same experience many times. This is because the self-image does not change.